San Francisco Marriage & Family Therapy

Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan LMFT

Reach the love you’ve longed for.

Did you know that couples who…

My couples therapy methods were carefully crafted to guide people like you to the perspective shifts necessary to actually relieve relationship suffering for a lifetime.

Figs O'Sullivan: Wounded Healer

Discover the story that turned an ordinary man into the relationship expert Silicon Valley’s geniuses turn to.

I had no business ever making love and relationship work.

The real story begins with the children of two broken homes who grew up feeling so much abandonment, rejection, shame, and fear… that they’d given up on making love work long before they met.

Over and over, Teale and I recreated those experiences from our childhood in our relationships.

I remember walking on a beach in San Francisco with my mother and telling her, “I’m sorry. I am never going to make you a grandmother.”

‍I felt so deeply not enough, and Teale was so convinced that she was too much, that a happy, fulfilling relationship seemed like a fairytale.

Little Figs O'Sullivan, future intensive couples therapist

Little Teale Taxis, future intensive couples therapist

And then we met…

‍Sparks flew…

‍And… eventually, the negative cycle continued.

1. Teale would see me as uncaring, become disappointed in me and then criticize me…

2. Which would lead me to see her as mean, get frustrated with her, and then withdraw from her…

3. Leading her to see me as even more uncaring… and on and on this painful cycle of disconnection went.

We call this awful dance the "Waltz of Pain."

What we would come to realize through years of discovering what would become The Empathi Method, was that this Waltz of Pain is a part of every relationship.

This wasn’t happening because I was broken, Teale was broken, or because we were with the wrong person…

We just didn’t understand how both of us were participating in and maintaining painful disconnection and how to work as a team against it.

Teale isn’t too much. I am enough.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

Even though we had no role models to look up to as kids, we get to have the relationship of our dreams…

… We get to be the parents that we didn’t have when we were little…

… And now I’m a decade into a beautiful, healthy, connected marriage, with two wonderful kids who get the dad they deserve.

You can have the relationship you've longed for.

Our methods are proven to guide couples like you to the shifts necessary to actually relieve relationship suffering for a lifetime — again and again and again.

With Figs O'Sullivan Couples Therapy You Will…

Stop having the same argument(s) over and over again
Recover from an infidelity or another breach of trust
Return to a deeper level of intimacy
Work on your relationship even though your partner doesn't seem available
Feel more secure in your sex life
Navigate life transitions from a place of connection and understanding of each other
Reduce the frequency and intensity of communication breakdowns

Stop suffering. Book your call now.

Now is always the best time to strengthen your relationship.

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