OUR COUNSELORS
Meet Empathi's
Therapists
Work face-to-face with one of our highly-trained therapists.
We meet with couples and/or individuals to provide customized support.
We're Figs and Teale, the founders of Empathi.
We’re also husband and wife, so working on relationships is not just a job, it’s our way of life. We’re dedicated to making sure everybody gets the support they need.
Schedule a free, confidential consultation today.
One of our highly qualified counselors will learn what’s happening with your relationship, then come up with a support plan to meet your particular needs.
Meet the Empathi
Team
Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. He's also Chief Empathi Officer, husband, dad, wounded-healer and was featured on NPR's All Things Considered as a champion for healthy relationships.
Figs' life's mission is to help couples feel more connected.
Teale is a wife, mother, artist and passionate advocate for love relationships. She has a special focus on cultural sensitivity, parenting, and how to prevent and repair affairs and other relationship injuries. Teale loves working with people to facilitate their greater sense of self-acceptance and capacity to experience joy and connection.
A gentle man who walks the talk, a loyal long-time partner in a committed relationship. Ford is a certified teacher and senior trainer in iRest, helping train other therapists in this somatic healing practice. He is also certified in yoga therapy and SHEN therapy for emotional healing. Ford's passion is helping clients find fulfilling connection with themselves and in their relationships.
Karen is skilled at helping couples understand the painful cycle of conflict they’re stuck in and guiding them back to safety, connection, and love. She is known by her clients for offering direct and honest feedback with love, warmth, and humor. Karen specializes in working with couples and individuals dealing with relationship issues. She is trained in Gottman Couples Therapy and has intensive training in EFT for Couples.
As an individual and couples therapist, Lauren collaborates with clients in the brave work of tuning into underlying feelings to facilitate authentic connection and a sense of being more fully alive. Lauren brings openness, curiosity, and genuineness to her therapeutic work and is sensitive to each client’s unique needs and life experiences.
Relationships are a mirror, portal, and cauldron to Joanna, who believes a little bit of work can lead to transformative relief within a relationship. She is a skilled supporter who has personal experience with monogamous, polyamorous, and open relationships.
Joanna is trained in a range of therapy approaches, but most of all, she is known for bringing mindfulness and an attitude of gratitude to her work with clients. Formerly a political advocate, Joanna now advocates for people like you, seeking the love they desire.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT#100084
It’s tough to see couples who really love each other fall apart just because they don’t have the insight they need to make it work. That’s why Iliana works heart-to-heart with individuals and couples, in English or in Spanish, to help them deeply connect to themselves and others.
Using the Emotionally-Focused Therapy model, Iliana leads individuals in navigating their inner world and helps partners understand and see each other so that they can rebuild the trust, safety, and love they both long for.
Supervised by Fiachra Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
Relationships have the ability to present us with challenges, and for this reason they also have the ability to be our greatest teachers and catalysts for growth.
A student of life and of her own partnership spanning over a decade, Justin is a lover of music, nature, food, learning and connection.
She enjoys working with couples from diverse backgrounds and of diverse configurations to uncover the cycles that generate conflict and disconnection between them. She utilizes an EFT attachment framework to help couples fundamentally shift their perspectives in order to experience a deeper sense of safety, freedom and connection with one another.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT#100084
Ali is a warm, compassionate, and loving therapist. She is an expert in working from an Attachment lens with all types of couples and families as well as parent-child relationships. Ali got her master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy (‘97), her doctorate in Psychology: Marriage and Family Therapy (‘18), and has continued her life-long love of learning with postdoctoral master-level training as an Emotionally Focused Couples (EFT) therapist.
Ali is also a parenting educator and for over 30 years she has worked with families with someone who identifies as LGBTQIA+ and all the issues relating to coming out, questioning your gender/sexuality, as well as dealing with the disenfranchised grief one may have when a loved one comes out.
Supervised by Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan, LMFT #79062
EMDR-trained Marriage and Family Therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Happily married father of two. Raphael loves helping people get more intimately connected by helping them work through emotional and traumatic blocks. His own long-term relationship has been aided greatly by Emotionally Focused Therapy and he wants to share the benefits of being more insightful, honest, and compassionate in relationships.
Raphael has worked with several different configurations of relationship with the focus on creating security, care and safety. By helping couples relate to each other more effectively, it has ripple effects on their children; friends; extended community. The stronger we are together, the easier the travails of life are to face.
Kristin Herbert enjoys collaborating with couples and individuals as they work to understand their patterns, expand their sense of agency, and build lives and relationships that are coherent with their values and priorities.
With profound respect for the universal importance of belonging and feeling understood, Kristin supports people as they learn to use their emotions to guide them into deeper, more secure connections with themselves and one another.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
Sean believes in the power of connection. His work with couples, families, individuals, and children is inspired by his experience with Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Somatic/Mindfulness practices. Sean's clients appreciate his ability to provide a safe environment to explore their challenges, identify old patterns, and discover new strategies to cultivate the balance, love, and connection they deserve to have in their lives. Sean is also a loving husband, proud father, and outdoor enthusiast.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
Vulnerability is the greatest asset we have for building personal and interpersonal resilience. That’s why Olga is committed to offering a safe, compassionate, and nonjudgmental therapeutic environment where those she helps can achieve their goals and grow into their personhood.
Olga specializes in using EFT in new ways with couples to foster a long-lasting and secure attachment in an attentive, collaborative space. Here, partners can explore their emotions and behavioral triggers, attaining a greater understanding of themselves and each other.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
Chiraz has seen first-hand how by being open, trusting, and empathetic with one another, partners can grow stronger and face the world together as a team. Having personally benefitted from applying Emotionally-Focused Therapy concepts to her long-term marriage, Chiraz is committed to helping partners to re-establish their emotional connection by gaining awareness of their emotions and patterns of interaction.
Chiraz has experience working with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, parenting, emotional regulation, anger management, and acculturation. She also loves being a married and a mother of two, enjoys art and music, and is a dog lover.
Supervised by Fiachra O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
Wendy is a long-time mental health practitioner who believes that, with the right amount of effort, the partnership of your wildest dreams is within reach and can turn up the heat on your personal growth.
In a culture that puts so much emphasis on “I,” Wendy works with patients to develop the “we” mentality required for a loving, thriving, satisfying relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.
Wendy uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy to help couples demystify the behaviors of their partner and learn to identify the underlying patterns and programming that cause emotional chaos. Her work helps members of a couple draw closer and build bonds that withstand the inevitable hardships of life.
Supervised by Fiachra O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
"Did I pick the wrong person?"
Most of us have been here—stuck in the same negative cycles, feeling like our partners are the enemy. But what if you could feel tenderly toward each other again? Like you get each other and have each other's backs?
As a client herself, Maureen has been through the good, the bad, and the ugly of couples therapy. As a therapist, she makes sure her clients receive the best therapy has to offer, using her knowledge of the Gottman Method, Imago therapy, and just plain talk therapy. Maureen also has experience dealing with trauma and is currently training in EMDR Therapy. As an Empathi therapist, Maureen embraces attachment theory and the Emotionally-Focused Therapy model with her clients.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, CA MFT #100084
An artist and adventurer at heart, Alissa shares her warmth and natural curiosity with her clients, bringing a wealth of tools to assist in transforming her client's felt experience and relationships.
Alissa utilizes Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy with couples in order to heal and strengthen their emotional bonds so that the relationship—and each individual—can deepen and grow. With a prior professional background in mind-body movement, hypnotherapy, and coaching, Alissa’s approach with clients is holistic, psychodynamic, and relational.
Alissa’s personal and professional experience includes navigating anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, neurodivergence, cultural differences, monogamy, sexuality, and polyamory.
Supervised by Jen Hyatt, LMFT #99355
The therapeutic process has the ability to transform. I am living proof of this.
With the help of a skilled therapist, I was able to rise from my lowest point—anxious, depressed, and trapped in addiction—inspired to leave the business world in order to help others who are suffering.
For this reason, I know that we can change and grow at any point in our lives. I know that we are all worthy and capable of love. Above all, I believe in the beauty, resiliency, and strength of the human spirit.
Everyone deserves a fighting chance to live a rich, full and satisfying life. Therapy could be yours—it was mine.
Supervised by Teale Taxis, CA MFT #100084
A former tech manager, Dan has carried his leadership skills into the world of intimate relationships. As someone who understands just how complex life can get, he is skilled at slowing down relationship dynamics to make space for everyone's voice to be heard.
Dan brings patience, compassion, and a sense of ease to his work with clients. His personal experience in monogamous, polyamorous, and open relationship structures aids him in treating relationships of all kinds.
In his free time, Dan loves rock climbing, being in nature, moving his body, and listening to great music.
Jessica’s approach is deeply relational and centered around emotional needs, turning challenges into enrichment, passion, and purpose for the self and in relationships.
Having served a diverse group of clients and in a range of settings, Jessica’s goal is to guide and support you in your journey of self-discovery.
She believes that a safe and welcoming space—along with the support and trust of a strong therapeutic relationship—are the key to living your most authentic and empowering life.
Creating a new relationship with our thoughts and emotions is the key to building the life we want.
Through his own mental health journey, Max knows how the beliefs of society, family, and friends on dealing with uncomfortable thoughts and feelings are often conflicting, confusing, or simply don’t work. We can end up letting our internal experiences drive us away from what is important to us.
With ACT, Max can help you act on what matters most to you, opening the way to personal and relational wellbeing. Through EFT, Max can help you and your partner identify your pattern of conflict, connect with your emotions, and move toward deep intimacy and connection.
Figs’ life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.
Certified in EFT for couples
Supervised by Fiachra Figs O’Sullivan LMFT #79062
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. He’s also Chief Empathi Officer, husband, dad, wounded-healer and was featured on NPR’s All Things Considered as a champion for healthy relationships.
Figs’ life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.
Teale is a wife, mother, artist and passionate advocate for love relationships. She has a special focus on cultural sensitivity, parenting, and how to prevent and repair affairs and other relationship injuries. Teale loves working with people to facilitate their greater sense of self-acceptance and capacity to experience joy and connection.
Karen is honored to travel with others on their journey toward wholeness.
With 20 years of experience in community mental health, 10 as a Sr. Leadership Trainer/Organizational Development consultant, and 4 as the director (and co-creator) of the Resilience Clinic in Oakland, Karen believes in the power of collaboration and equanimity in deepening our awareness and understanding of the social location of ourselves and others.
As a licensed psychotherapist, she uses the principles and practices of the Hakomi Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to facilitate deep healing on an individual, relational and collective level.
When not with others, Karen can be found tending her garden or going on long walks with her goldendoodle, Pippa!
Karen is honored to travel with others on their journey toward wholeness.
With 20 years of experience in community mental health, 10 as a Sr. Leadership Trainer/Organizational Development consultant, and 4 as the director (and co-creator) of the Resilience Clinic in Oakland, Karen believes in the power of collaboration and equanimity in deepening our awareness and understanding of the social location of ourselves and others.
As a licensed psychotherapist, she uses the principles and practices of the Hakomi Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to facilitate deep healing on an individual, relational and collective level.
When not with others, Karen can be found tending her garden or going on long walks with her goldendoodle, Pippa!
A gentle man who walks the talk, a loyal long-time partner in a committed relationship. Ford is a certified teacher and senior trainer in iRest, helping train other therapists in this somatic healing practice. He is also certified in yoga therapy and SHEN therapy for emotional healing. Ford’s passion is helping clients find fulfilling connection with themselves and in their relationships.
A gentle man who walks the talk, a loyal long-time partner in a committed relationship. Ford is a certified teacher and senior trainer in iRest, helping train other therapists in this somatic healing practice. He is also certified in yoga therapy and SHEN therapy for emotional healing. Ford’s passion is helping clients find fulfilling connection with themselves and in their relationships.
Karen is skilled at helping couples understand the painful cycle of conflict they’re stuck in and guiding them back to safety, connection, and love. She is known by her clients for offering direct and honest feedback with love, warmth, and humor. Karen specializes in working with couples and individuals dealing with relationship issues. She is trained in Gottman Couples Therapy and has intensive training in EFT for Couples.
Karen is skilled at helping couples understand the painful cycle of conflict they’re stuck in and guiding them back to safety, connection, and love. She is known by her clients for offering direct and honest feedback with love, warmth, and humor. Karen specializes in working with couples and individuals dealing with relationship issues. She is trained in Gottman Couples Therapy and has intensive training in EFT for Couples.
As an individual and couples therapist, Lauren collaborates with clients in the brave work of tuning into underlying feelings to facilitate authentic connection and a sense of being more fully alive. Lauren brings openness, curiosity, and genuineness to her therapeutic work and is sensitive to each client’s unique needs and life experiences.
As an individual and couples therapist, Lauren collaborates with clients in the brave work of tuning into underlying feelings to facilitate authentic connection and a sense of being more fully alive. Lauren brings openness, curiosity, and genuineness to her therapeutic work and is sensitive to each client’s unique needs and life experiences.
COUNSELOR
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in California #125355
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
Relationships are a mirror, portal, and cauldron to Joanna, who believes a little bit of work can lead to transformative relief within a relationship. She is a skilled supporter who has personal experience with monogamous, polyamorous, and open relationships. Joanna is trained in a range of therapy approaches, but most of all, she is known for bringing mindfulness and an attitude of gratitude to her work with clients. Formerly a political advocate, Joanna now advocates for people like you, seeking the love they desire.
Relationships are a mirror, portal, and cauldron to Joanna, who believes a little bit of work can lead to transformative relief within a relationship. She is a skilled supporter who has personal experience with monogamous, polyamorous, and open relationships. Joanna is trained in a range of therapy approaches, but most of all, she is known for bringing mindfulness and an attitude of gratitude to her work with clients. Formerly a political advocate, Joanna now advocates for people like you, seeking the love they desire.
INTERNATIONAL COUNSELOR
Licensed Psychologist in Mexico
Supervised by Fiachra Figs O’Sullivan LMFT #79062
It’s tough to see couples who really love each other fall apart just because they don’t have the insight they need to make it work. That’s why Iliana works heart-to-heart with individuals and couples, in English or in Spanish, to help them deeply connect to themselves and others.
Using the Emotionally-Focused Therapy model, Iliana leads individuals in navigating their inner world and helps partners understand and see each other so that they can rebuild the trust, safety, and love they both long for.
It’s tough to see couples who really love each other fall apart just because they don’t have the insight they need to make it work. That’s why Iliana works heart-to-heart with individuals and couples, in English or in Spanish, to help them deeply connect to themselves and others.
Using the Emotionally-Focused Therapy model, Iliana leads individuals in navigating their inner world and helps partners understand and see each other so that they can rebuild the trust, safety, and love they both long for.
EMDR-trained Marriage and Family Therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Happily married father of two. Raphael loves helping people get more intimately connected by helping them work through emotional and traumatic blocks. His own long-term relationship has been aided greatly by Emotionally Focused Therapy and he wants to share the benefits of being more insightful, honest, and compassionate in relationships.
Raphael has worked with several different configurations of relationship with the focus on creating security, care and safety. By helping couples relate to each other more effectively, it has ripple effects on their children; friends; extended community. The stronger we are together, the easier the travails of life are to face.
EMDR-trained Marriage and Family Therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Happily married father of two. Raphael loves helping people get more intimately connected by helping them work through emotional and traumatic blocks. His own long-term relationship has been aided greatly by Emotionally Focused Therapy and he wants to share the benefits of being more insightful, honest, and compassionate in relationships.
Raphael has worked with several different configurations of relationship with the focus on creating security, care and safety. By helping couples relate to each other more effectively, it has ripple effects on their children; friends; extended community. The stronger we are together, the easier the travails of life are to face.
COUNSELOR
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #121183 in Oakland
Supervised by Fiachra O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
Wendy is a long-time mental health practitioner who believes that, with the right amount of effort, the partnership of your wildest dreams is within reach and can turn up the heat on your personal growth.
In a culture that puts so much emphasis on “I,” Wendy works with patients to develop the “we” mentality required for a loving, thriving, satisfying relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.
Wendy uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy to help couples demystify the behaviors of their partner and learn to identify the underlying patterns and programming that cause emotional chaos. Her work helps members of a couple draw closer and build bonds that withstand the inevitable hardships of life.
Wendy is a long-time mental health practitioner who believes that, with the right amount of effort, the partnership of your wildest dreams is within reach and can turn up the heat on your personal growth.
In a culture that puts so much emphasis on “I,” Wendy works with patients to develop the “we” mentality required for a loving, thriving, satisfying relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.
Wendy uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy to help couples demystify the behaviors of their partner and learn to identify the underlying patterns and programming that cause emotional chaos. Her work helps members of a couple draw closer and build bonds that withstand the inevitable hardships of life.
COUNSELOR
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #129762 in California
Supervised by Fiachra Figs O’Sullivan LMFT #79062
Alissa helps you befriend your demons, connect in loving relationships, and create a more satisfying life. She’s got a warm, playful spirit, and embraces folks who stick to the middle of the road as well as those who blaze their own trails.
Alissa knows first-hand how it feels to move from painful communication patterns and insecurity to vibrant, authentic, and secure relationships. She works with couples and individuals, utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy, with relational, intersectional, somatic, and parts-work approaches.
Expect care, honesty, humor, and encouragement when working with Alissa. Her experience includes working with anxiety, grief, trauma, health issues, mixed race/culture relationships, sexuality, monogamy/polyamory, and psychedelic/entheogenic integration. She’s a part of LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent communities.
Alissa helps you befriend your demons, connect in loving relationships, and create a more satisfying life. She’s got a warm, playful spirit, and embraces folks who stick to the middle of the road as well as those who blaze their own trails.
Alissa knows first-hand how it feels to move from painful communication patterns and insecurity to vibrant, authentic, and secure relationships. She works with couples and individuals, utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy, with relational, intersectional, somatic, and parts-work approaches.
Expect care, honesty, humor, and encouragement when working with Alissa. Her experience includes working with anxiety, grief, trauma, health issues, mixed race/culture relationships, sexuality, monogamy/polyamory, and psychedelic/entheogenic integration. She’s a part of LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent communities.
COUNSELOR
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #132721, APCC #11606 in California
Supervised by Teale Taxis, CA MFT #100084
The therapeutic process has the ability to transform. I am living proof of this.
With the help of a skilled therapist, I was able to rise from my lowest point—anxious, depressed, and trapped in addiction—inspired to leave the business world in order to help others who are suffering.
For this reason, I know that we can change and grow at any point in our lives. I know that we are all worthy and capable of love. Above all, I believe in the beauty, resiliency, and strength of the human spirit.
Everyone deserves a fighting chance to live a rich, full and satisfying life. Therapy could be yours—it was mine.
The therapeutic process has the ability to transform. I am living proof of this.
With the help of a skilled therapist, I was able to rise from my lowest point—anxious, depressed, and trapped in addiction—inspired to leave the business world in order to help others who are suffering.
For this reason, I know that we can change and grow at any point in our lives. I know that we are all worthy and capable of love. Above all, I believe in the beauty, resiliency, and strength of the human spirit.
Everyone deserves a fighting chance to live a rich, full and satisfying life. Therapy could be yours—it was mine.
Counselor
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #138601 in Oakland
Supervised by Fiachra O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
As we let others in past our defenses, the growth of love and vulnerability also creates great opportunity for hurt—no matter the form of our relationships. When those hurts are one-sided, repair can be simple, but when all parties are in pain and reactive, negative cycles can ensue.
Sherwood works with compassionate awareness and non-judgmental curiosity to support the exploration of each couple’s unique challenges, with a deep understanding of how these negative cycles undermine what makes relationship beautiful. Using attachment theory and EFT, he transforms harder moments into opportunities for couples to love one another more fully, with greater understanding, connection, and safety.
As we let others in past our defenses, the growth of love and vulnerability also creates great opportunity for hurt—no matter the form of our relationships. When those hurts are one-sided, repair can be simple, but when all parties are in pain and reactive, negative cycles can ensue.
Sherwood works with compassionate awareness and non-judgmental curiosity to support the exploration of each couple’s unique challenges, with a deep understanding of how these negative cycles undermine what makes relationship beautiful. Using attachment theory and EFT, he transforms harder moments into opportunities for couples to love one another more fully, with greater understanding, connection, and safety.
counselor
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #135208
Supervised by Teale Taxis, LMFT #100084
As a multicultural first-generation immigrant and third-culture kid, Emily is driven by a deep passion for supporting couples in navigating the complexities of cross-cultural differences, exploring identity issues, and discovering a sense of belonging within themselves, their relationship, and the world around them.
Hailing from New York, Emily brings a unique blend of experiences as a former entrepreneur and leader in the social impact sector. Her therapeutic style is warm, compassionate, intuitive, collaborative and active. She is known to challenge her clients, highlight where they’re stuck, and be a champion for their transformation.
As a multicultural first-generation immigrant and third-culture kid, Emily is driven by a deep passion for supporting couples in navigating the complexities of cross-cultural differences, exploring identity issues, and discovering a sense of belonging within themselves, their relationship, and the world around them.
Hailing from New York, Emily brings a unique blend of experiences as a former entrepreneur and leader in the social impact sector. Her therapeutic style is warm, compassionate, intuitive, collaborative and active. She is known to challenge her clients, highlight where they’re stuck, and be a champion for their transformation.
Counselor
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #138601 in Oakland
Supervised by Fiachra O’Sullivan, LMFT #79062
As we let others in past our defenses, the growth of love and vulnerability also creates great opportunity for hurt—no matter the form of our relationships. When those hurts are one-sided, repair can be simple, but when all parties are in pain and reactive, negative cycles can ensue.
Sherwood works with compassionate awareness and non-judgmental curiosity to support the exploration of each couple’s unique challenges, with a deep understanding of how these negative cycles undermine what makes relationship beautiful. Using attachment theory and EFT, he transforms harder moments into opportunities for couples to love one another more fully, with greater understanding, connection, and safety.
As we let others in past our defenses, the growth of love and vulnerability also creates great opportunity for hurt—no matter the form of our relationships. When those hurts are one-sided, repair can be simple, but when all parties are in pain and reactive, negative cycles can ensue.
Sherwood works with compassionate awareness and non-judgmental curiosity to support the exploration of each couple’s unique challenges, with a deep understanding of how these negative cycles undermine what makes relationship beautiful. Using attachment theory and EFT, he transforms harder moments into opportunities for couples to love one another more fully, with greater understanding, connection, and safety.
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Meet Your Empathi Monsters
These adorable creatures will be with you every step of the way as you navigate our supplemental relationship tools. Are you a Jo? Are you a Pat? Discover it with the Empathi Quiz!
Jo
EMPATHI CREATURE Relentless Lover
Jo is an imaginary being in service to you and your partner, to reflect back relationship behaviors in a fun, engaging, and non-threatening way. Jo embodies the set of human emotions, judgments, and strategies commonly used by people with the emotional bonding style we call the Relentless Lover. By providing an external focus for you and your partner in the Empathi Exploration Quiz, Reports and Courses, Jo hopes you will be able to see your relationship behaviors with more clarity and self-compassion.
Pat
EMPATHI CREATURE Reluctant Lover
Just like Jo, Pat is an imaginary being in service to your relationship, although from the perspective of the common emotional bonding style we call the Reluctant Lover. Pat also reviews your answers to the Empathi Exploration Quiz and helps reflect back ways of being in love, because sometimes it is easier to see ourselves from an outside perspective. Pat has a deeply poignant way of illustrating relationship behaviors—and might even help you have a good laugh or two at yourself!