Why You Push Your Partner Away When You Need Them Most
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
Why I push my partner away when I need them most: the attachment science behind the shove, and how to stop the boomerang pattern.
How to Stop Protest Behavior in Anxious Attachment: The Vulnerable Move Underneath the Reach
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
How to stop protest behavior in anxious attachment by finding the vulnerable reach underneath the texting, fight-picking, and silent treatment.
How to Stop Chasing a Partner Who Pulls Away (Without Pretending You Don’t Care)
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
How to stop chasing a partner who pulls away without faking distance. An EFT therapist on the pursue-withdraw cycle and what actually breaks it.
Anxious Attachment and the Fear of Abandonment at Night: Why the Dark Amplifies the Alarm
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
Why anxious attachment fear of abandonment at night feels unbearable at 2 a.m., the biology behind it, and what actually helps when logic fails.
How to Calm an Anxious Attachment Spiral: A Therapist’s Guide to Stepping Out of the Story and Back into Your Body
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
A therapist’s clinical guide on how to calm an anxious attachment spiral, step out of the story, and regulate your nervous system without protesting.
Why Your Body Panics When Your Partner Pulls Away: The Somatic Truth About Abandonment Alarms
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
A couples therapist explains the somatic abandonment response in relationships—why your body panics when your partner pulls away, and how to soothe it.
Nervous System Dysregulation in Relationships: What It Is and How to Calm It
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
Nervous system dysregulation in relationships explained by a therapist: why fight/flight/freeze/fawn hijack couples, and how to calm it together.
How to Self-Soothe Your Anxious Attachment During Conflict (Without Going Silent or Abandoning Yourself)
Figs O'Sullivan
June 18, 2026
Learn how to self-soothe anxious attachment during conflict without going silent or abandoning yourself. A therapist’s guide to calming a flooded nervous system
Why You Get Anxious When Your Partner Needs Space: What’s Actually Happening in Your Body
Figs O'Sullivan
June 17, 2026
Why you panic when your partner needs space, what’s happening in your nervous system, and how to tell withdrawal from healthy refueling.
Jill Biden Thought Joe Was Having a Stroke On Stage: The Attachment Terror of Watching Your Person Collapse in Public
Figs O'Sullivan
June 15, 2026
Jill Biden feared Joe was having a stroke on stage. A therapist on the attachment terror of watching your partner have a medical emergency in public.
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