After 16 years as an LMFT, I have come to see controlling behavior in relationships through a very different lens. Most controlling behavior is not about power. It is about terror. Here is what your partner is actually trying to tell you.
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT | April 2026 I have
After 16 years as a couples therapist, here is what I know about toxic relationships that the internet gets dangerously wrong. The toxicity is not inside one person. It is in the space between two people who have lost the ability to repair.
Your Partner Probably Isn’t a Narcissist. Here’s What’s Actually Going On. By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You know the feeling. Something happened. You know it
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Stonewalling is abuse when the silence is used on
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You ask a question. You share a hurt. And
You are standing in the kitchen holding a piece of evidence. A text message. A
This is one of the most important distinctions I help people make in my office,
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You love this person. You also cannot keep doing
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