Figs & Teale Birth Prep Part 1...

Figs & Teale Birth Prep Part 1

Figs sits down with his pregnant wife, Teale (due in 3-5 weeks!) and together they share a special, intimate chat to prepare for the birth of their second child, Kian!

Figs asks Teale three questions. These can be applied to any major relationship debate, thought, fear, or issue:

  • What are your longings fears, thoughts, excitements?
  • What can you do to support yourself if any of the fears or thoughts that are difficult come up?
  • What can I do to support you?

The task is: Can you take 30 minutes with your partner, take turns and answer these questions and really listen to each other?

Just as Teale experienced in her emotional and beautiful sharing, you might notice that your vulnerable parts show up. Take this as an opportunity to really show some empathy for yourself and your partner. Figs provides an important reminder: that everybody has an outrageous place, where they don´t feel so loveable. So give yourself permission to have impulses and reactions and recognize the resource you have inside and outside yourself. Together these places are you and your partner’s medicine. Maybe you too can discovery you rpartner as a resource you can turn to when you are most in need of support.

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Fiachra "Figs" O’Sullivan is a Certified EFT Therapist (ICEEFT), a renowned couples therapist, and the founder of Empathi.com. He believes the principles of secure attachment and sound money are the two essential protocols for building a future filled with hope. A husband and dad, he lives in Hawaii, where he’s an outrigger canoe paddler, getting humbled daily by the wind and waves. He’s also incessantly funny, to the point that he should probably see someone about that.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How can couples prepare for major life transitions like having a baby?+
The three questions I asked Teale work for any major relationship transition: What are your longings, fears, thoughts, and excitements? What can you do to support yourself if difficult feelings come up? What can I do to support you? These aren't just nice questions, they're essential prep work. Major transitions activate our attachment systems big time. When we're facing the unknown, we become Babies in Love again, needing reassurance and connection. Taking 30 minutes to really listen to each other's vulnerable parts creates safety before the storm hits.
What should I do if my partner gets emotional during vulnerable conversations?+
When vulnerable parts show up during these conversations, that's not a problem to solve, it's information to receive. Your job isn't to fix their emotions or make them feel better immediately. Your job is to stay present and offer empathy. Remember, being childlike in moments of fear or transition isn't childish, it's human. The Body as the First Ledger is speaking. Listen to what it's saying instead of trying to logic your way out of the discomfort. This is where real intimacy lives.
How often should couples have these deep check-in conversations?+
Honestly, most couples avoid these conversations until they're in crisis, which is like waiting until your car breaks down to check the oil. I recommend monthly minimum, but especially before major transitions like births, moves, or career changes. The goal isn't to have perfect answers, it's to practice staying connected when things get real. If you need help facilitating these conversations or want guided practice, check out Figlet, our AI relationship coach. It's the next best thing to having me walk you through it personally.