Fair fighting rules fail because your prefrontal cortex goes offline during conflict. Here is what actually works: co-regulation before content, the 20-minute flooding rule, and a real-time framework for when arguments escalate.
What we call emotional immaturity is usually a misdiagnosis of unhealed attachment wounds. A licensed therapist with 16+ years of experience explains why your partner isn’t childish, what’s really happening in their nervous system, and how to grow emotionally together.
Your nervous system is still wired to your ex. Here’s what a therapist with 16+ years of experience wants you to understand before you start dating after divorce.
The earliest signs of cheating are not behavioral clues you notice in your partner. They are sensations you notice in yourself. A therapist explains what your nervous system picks up before your mind does, and what to do about it.
A couples therapist with 16+ years of experience breaks down the real signs of manipulation, why they work on your nervous system, and the critical difference between deliberate control and unconscious protective strategies.
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Emotional detachment is a protective nervous system response where
If you’re walking on eggshells in your relationship, your nervous system is running a survival program. Here’s what’s really happening, why you can’t stop, and what actually helps.
You can’t decide to stop loving someone any more than you can decide to stop being hungry. Attachment is biological, not cognitive. Here’s what a therapist with 16 years of experience wants you to know about why you can’t flip the switch, and what you can do instead.
After 16 years of couples therapy, these are the real clinical signs a marriage may be beyond repair. Not a pop-psychology checklist. The biology of disconnection, the burnt-out pursuer, and when certainty kills a relationship.
The reason you can’t get over someone isn’t weakness. It’s biology. A therapist with 16 years of experience explains the neuroscience of attachment, why your body holds on after a breakup, and the somatic process of actually letting go.
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