By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT Let me start with what might seem like a strange admission for a therapist: not everyone needs to be in my office. Not everyone can be in my office. And the idea that the only path to a better relationship runs through a therapist’s door is both clinically inaccurate and financially […]
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By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT You promised yourself it wouldn’t happen again. You even had a plan. Stay calm. Don’t raise your voice. Use the techniques from that article you read. And then your partner said the thing, or gave you the look, or went quiet in that specific way, and within sixty seconds you were
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By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT You’ve probably taken an attachment style quiz online. Maybe you’ve been told you’re “anxious attached” or “avoidant” or, if you’re lucky, “secure.” And maybe that label felt validating for about five minutes before you realized it didn’t actually tell you what to do differently in your marriage. Talk to FigletFigs’ AI
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By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT To fix a relationship when you’re the only one trying, stop pushing your partner to change and change your own steps in the cycle instead: drop the pursuit, lead with vulnerability instead of criticism, and regulate your own nervous system so your partner has room to step back in. One person
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Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when you are You compare courses because waiting for therapy takes too long. Do you know you can get personalized answers to all your questions from the same wisdom that wrote this article, right now? Ask anything about your own situation
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Can couples therapy work if only one person goes? Many people wonder whether couples therapy if only one person goes can make a real difference. The answer may surprise you. By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT I’m going to give you the honest answer first, and then I’ll explain it. If you’re still trying to get your
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Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. The Waltz of Pain is a predictable relationship cycle where one partner reaches out or pushes harder while the other pulls back or shuts down. It is an intense conflict loop that ends in silence or screaming, leaving you right back where you started three days later. You are
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By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT I hear it every single week. Sometimes multiple times a day. Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when you are You keep leaving articles out, hoping this time something shifts. Do you know you can get personalized answers to all your questions from the same wisdom that wrote this
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If you are thinking “my relationship is in crisis,” you are not alone. It is two in the morning. You are staring at the ceiling, your chest is tight, and your mind is racing after one of the worst fights of your relationship. You might be furiously searching the internet for answers, wondering if your
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