If your partner says you are gaslighting them, you may not be a villain, but your defensiveness may still be erasing their reality. I explain how shame drives it and how to stop.
You stayed, you tried, and it still hurts. I explain how to tell a recovery that is hard from a recovery that is not happening, and when walking away is the honest choice.
Living in the moment gets harder when even mindfulness turns into self-improvement, so here’s what I do instead, starting with the part that pulls you away.
If you’ve built a life you can’t seem to enjoy, it isn’t a flaw in you, it’s protectors still on duty, and here’s how I started letting my own life in.
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