Why Am I Unhappy in My Relationship? A Therapist Explains the 7 Hidden Reasons
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April 16, 2026
By Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT It’s 11:47 PM. Your partner is asleep beside you. The house
Signs of an Unhappy Marriage: What a Therapist Looks for (That Most People Miss)
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How to Survive the First Year of Marriage: What Nobody Tells Newlyweds About What Happens After the Wedding
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April 16, 2026
The first year of marriage is when the Representative retires and the real attachment patterns emerge. Here is what attachment science says about why it is so hard, and how to navigate it.
Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore (And What a Therapist Sees That You Don’t)
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April 16, 2026
The internet gives you 15 signs. A couples therapist with 16 years of experience gives you one. Here’s what withdrawal really means, why certainty kills love, and how to tell the difference between a partner who is shut down and a partner who is gone.
How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist: A Therapist’s Guide to Protecting Your Children’s Nervous Systems
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April 16, 2026
Standard co-parenting advice fails when your ex has narcissistic features. Here is a clinical framework for protecting your children’s nervous systems, building enforceable parenting plans, and knowing when parallel parenting is the healthier choice.
How to Get Over a Divorce: What Your Nervous System Needs You to Know
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Divorce is not something you ‘get over.’ It is something you metabolize. An attachment science approach to understanding what your nervous system needs during divorce recovery, from the Waltz of Pain to rebuilding your Sovereign Us.
How to Know When Your Relationship Is Over
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April 16, 2026
The question you are really asking is not whether your relationship is over. It is whether you are willing to do the work required to find out. A couples therapist with 16 years of experience explains the clinical and attachment-science difference between a relationship in crisis and one that is truly done.
What Is the Vagal Brake in Relationships?
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The vagal brake is the biological mechanism that determines whether you and your partner can stay connected or spiral into conflict. Understanding how it works changes everything about how you approach disagreements, intimacy, and repair.
How to Deal with a Partner Who Is Always Negative
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Chronic negativity in a relationship is almost never a personality trait. It is a nervous system event. Learn what attachment science reveals about why your partner is always negative and what actually works to change the pattern.
What Is Emotional Neglect in a Relationship?
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Emotional neglect is the chronic, patterned failure to respond to a partner’s emotional needs. It is one of the most damaging forces a relationship can endure, not because it is dramatic, but because it is invisible.
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