If your partner wants an open relationship and you don’t, you are allowed to say no. The request is usually a message about something already happening between you, and the work is finding out which.

How important is sex in a relationship? As much as it matters to the two of you, and what matters most is what it means, because for many people sex is how the body asks: are you there for me, and am I enough?

You are fine all day. You get through work, you drive home, you are wide

It is the small things that get you. The way he chews. The way he breathes too loudly when he is concentrating. The sound of his keys. He puts a hand on your shoulder while you are loading the dishwasher and your skin goes tight before your mind has formed a single thought. You used to want this man

If you do not want to have sex with your husband, it is almost never

A couples therapist on why a husband stops reaching for his wife, why it is almost never her body, why asking makes it worse, and what to say tonight instead.

A couples therapist on why a husband goes silent behind his phone, what it does to your body, why asking louder backfires, and the one thing to say tonight.

A couples therapist on why loneliness inside a marriage hurts more than being single, how couples drift into roommates, and the one thing to say tonight.

A couples therapist on what constant sexual rejection does to the one asking, why the one saying no is protecting not withholding, and what to say tonight.

Chronic negativity in a relationship is almost never a personality trait. It is a nervous system event. Learn what attachment science reveals about why your partner is always negative and what actually works to change the pattern.