You are fine all day. You get through work, you drive home, you are wide

It is the small things that get you. The way he chews. The way he breathes too loudly when he is concentrating. The sound of his keys. He puts a hand on your shoulder while you are loading the dishwasher and your skin goes tight before your mind has formed a single thought. You used to want this man

He reached for you last night. A hand on your hip, the particular way he

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