I still remember walking on Ocean Beach with my mother in San Francisco: I’m 40 years old and I feel I have to tell her, “Look, I cannot make relationships work. I’m sorry, I’m just never going to make you a granny.” This moment is particularly hard because by far the most important goals in […]
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Everybody and their granny’s got a secret or three for makin’ love work: communication, boundaries, terms and conditions, eye of newt… But at Empathi, we’ve identified 3 true pillars of relationship repair, smushed them up, and crafted one incredibly effective philosophy and approach for helping couples and individuals: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Experiential Psychotherapy.
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Finding a couples therapist doesn’t have to be a nightmare. Check out Wendy’s essential guide to picking the right healer for your relationship.
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Yes. In fact, according to A Review of the Research in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, the initial level of relationship distress has no impact on the likelihood of success.
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It is hard to describe what it is like on the ocean in the outrigger. The pictures and videos never do it justice. I love this video the most to get a feel for the sport. Of course, I am out there as a wannabe, and those guys and most of the guys I paddle
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When Teale was growing up on the Island of Oahu, she and her mom participated in Hawaii’s “rough water” swim. For those who know my wife, this is perfectly in character—I once watched Teale (and her mom… and our kids!) refuse to leave the water, even after a shark was spotted 😳 Now, as we
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Whether you’re struggling with boundaries, trauma, or addiction, these 3 steps will show you how to fix your codependent relationship… Starting with the truth about that so-called “codependency.” https://youtu.be/c9EcxnJQXbY Follow These 3 Steps To Fix Your Codependent Relationship: 1. Normalize What’s Happening (Attachment, not Dependence) Codependency, schmodependency. As a couples therapist, I never use the
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How to fix a toxic relationship… You love your partner. But after days, weeks, or months of disconnection, escalating fights, mini-breakups, and more drama than an episode of Game of Thrones, you might start to wonder if your relationship is… Toxic Britney gets it. …and if it is, how can you get back to feeling
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As a couples therapist who desperately needs a break from social media (like everyone else), I know finding actually good relationship tips online can be… Frustrating. You try to escape the same-y relationship advice from your friends, parents, or Instagram feed, only to search “healthy relationship” and find 20 ai-written articles recycling the same 5 ideas.
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The following list of dos and don’ts for how to fix a relationship you “ruined” isn’t theoretical. It’s the wisdom I use to help couples every day. As a couples therapist who has helped thousands of couples bring their relationship back from the brink, take it from me… There is hope for your relationship. Get
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