Protest behavior is not a character flaw or manipulation. It is your nervous system in survival mode. Learn what attachment science reveals about why partners pursue, rage, and panic, and the biological protocol that actually de-escalates the cycle.
Anxious preoccupied attachment is not a personality flaw. It is mammalian biology running a survival strategy that no longer fits. A couples therapist explains the Protester pattern, the biology of hyperactivation, and what actually works to change it.
Secure functioning is not something one person has. It is something two people do together. Learn how Stan Tatkin’s PACT model defines secure functioning and what it looks like in practice.
Fearful avoidant attachment is what happens when your nervous system can’t decide whether to run toward love or away from it. A couples therapist with 16+ years of experience breaks down the biology, the relationship patterns, and what actually helps.
Dismissive avoidant attachment is a nervous system pattern, not a character flaw. Learn what causes it, how it shows up in relationships, and what both partners can do about it.
To heal attachment wounds, you need new experiences of safety in a relationship, repeated until
What is attachment theory? A licensed therapist with 16+ years experience explains the science of emotional bonding, the two questions your nervous system never stops asking, and why understanding attachment changes everything about how you approach your relationship.
Fearful avoidant attachment creates the most confusing relationship dynamics. Learn what drives the push-pull cycle, what it feels like from the inside, and how to heal, from an LMFT with 16+ years of experience.
Anxious preoccupied attachment is the adult attachment style that keeps you reaching for your partner even when reaching is pushing them away. A deep dive into the Protester’s nervous system, hyperactivating strategies, and the path to earned security.
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Anxious attachment is an insecure attachment style in which
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“Yes, And” is a principle used in improvisational theater wherein each actor must say “Yes,
I made this video to give prospective clients, and anyone curious about attachment-focused couples therapy,
Relationship Tip #10: Couples Therapy Remember how your need for love is wired into your
