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A couple holding each other in bed—they aren't codependent, they just love each other.

A couple holding each other in bed—they aren't codependent, they just love each other.

Earned Secure Attachment Through Therapy

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know, this is one of the most important things I get to tell people

Two women in indoor space with potted plant, both with hands to their heads, appearing distressed or troubled.

Two women in indoor space with potted plant, both with hands to their heads, appearing distressed or troubled.

Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Listen, if you’re reading this because someone told you that you have “anxious preoccupied attachment,”

Women laughing together at a gathering—they're free, not anxious.

Women laughing together at a gathering—they're free, not anxious.

Attachment Theory and Relationship Problems

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know what’s funny? Most people come to me after they’ve been down the rabbit

Podcast cover titled Too Tired Today Crazy with Violet Benson showing two people in a bathtub

Podcast cover titled Too Tired Today Crazy with Violet Benson showing two people in a bathtub

Avoidant Attachment and Emotional Distance

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You reach for them and the room gets colder.

A couple, two women, rest their heads together, looking at the camera. One girl is smiling, the other is serious, as if she's going along with the relationship without meeting her needs.

A couple, two women, rest their heads together, looking at the camera. One girl is smiling, the other is serious, as if she's going along with the relationship without meeting her needs.

Hypervigilance in Anxious Attachment

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You clock the half-second pause before they answer. You

Jo and Pat, Empathi's pursuer and withdrawer love style monsters look at each other, disinterested.

Attachment Styles and Conflict Resolution

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

It is eleven at night. You are standing in the kitchen and your voice is

Women laughing together at a gathering—they're free, not anxious.

Women laughing together at a gathering—they're free, not anxious.

Fearful Avoidant Push-Pull Dynamic

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You are exhausted. That is where I want to

Video thumbnail with word Attachment and play button, three people visible against purple background

Video thumbnail with word Attachment and play button, three people visible against purple background

How to Date with Anxious Attachment

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

So, here’s the thing I want you to really sit with first. If you’ve got

A man sits next to a bed with a bottle in his hand, looking unhappy. His partner, a woman, rests her hand on his shoulder, indicating a relationship with addiction or alcohol and enabling.

A man sits next to a bed with a bottle in his hand, looking unhappy. His partner, a woman, rests her hand on his shoulder, indicating a relationship with addiction or alcohol and enabling.

Anxious Attachment and Codependency

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Look, I’m going to stop you right there before we even get into this. I

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Attachment Styles in Toxic Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You love this person. You also cannot keep doing

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