Avoidant Attachment in Relationships: What It Really Looks Like Inside a Partnership
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. An avoidant person in a relationship is someone whose
Anxious Attachment in Dating: Why Your Nervous System Hijacks the First Few Dates
Figs O'Sullivan
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Anxious attachment in dating isn’t a character flaw. It’s your nervous system mistaking ambiguity for abandonment. Learn why dating is uniquely triggering for anxious attachment, how protest behaviors push away the connection you want, and what to do instead.
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Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Secure attachment is not the absence of fear. It is a practiced skill set you can build at any age through corrective emotional experiences and the proof of work of rupture and repair.
Attachment Wounds: How the Injuries You Carry Shape the Way You Love
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Attachment wounds are the injuries you carry from your earliest relationships into adult love. Learn how they form, why they hijack your relationship, and the clinical path to healing them.
Disorganized Attachment: When Safety and Danger Wear the Same Face
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Disorganized attachment is the collapse of strategy, when the person who was supposed to be your safe harbor was also the storm. Learn about its childhood origins, neurological signature, and the specific healing path that makes lasting love possible.
Attachment Theory: The Science Behind How You Love (and Why It Matters)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Attachment theory is not a quiz or a label. It is a biological map of human survival that explains why you pursue, withdraw, or shut down in your closest relationships. A clinician’s guide to the sixty-year science of bonding.
Secure Attachment: What It Actually Looks Like (and How to Earn It)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Most people know their attachment style. But few understand what secure attachment actually looks like in practice. After 16 years of clinical work, here’s what earned security really means, and why it doesn’t feel like limerence.
Avoidant Attachment Style: The Reluctant Lover, the Biology of Shutdown, and What Healing Actually Looks Like
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The cultural narrative about avoidant partners is wrong. Withdrawal is not indifference. It is a nervous system screaming for safety. Here is what the avoidant attachment style actually looks like from inside, and what real healing requires.
Insecure Attachment: What It Actually Is, How It Shows Up, and What to Do About It
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Insecure attachment is the umbrella term for the survival
Anxious Attachment Style: The Biology, the Pattern, and the Path to Healing
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Your anxious attachment style is not a character flaw. It is a biological survival program. After 16 years of working with couples, here is what I know about the pursuer pattern, the biology of anxious seeking, and what real healing looks like.
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