If you’re still fighting about the affair years later, you’re caught in the “Never Forget vs. Never Forgiven” loop. Here’s how to finally stop it. There is a specific couple dynamic I see often. They come to me two, three, maybe five years after an affair. Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when […]
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If you are looking for couples counseling for parents in San Francisco, you likely already know that relationships change the second you have kids. That spark you had, the partnership that felt so natural, suddenly finds itself in a fog. You’re both exhausted. You’re both touched out. And somehow, a conversation about who’s picking up
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Most people think couples therapy for older couples is not a thing. Newlyweds learn to communicate each other’s language. Parents are overwhelmed by toddlers. Maybe a couple in their forties somewhere are trying to save a marriage before the kids notice. But some of the most meaningful work I do is with couples in their
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A one-way repair in relationships happens when one partner takes responsibility for healing without waiting for the other to go first. Understanding the one-way repair in relationships can transform how you recover from conflict and betrayal. Why standard couples therapy fails after an affair, and the specific protocol that works. In my standard work with
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Why do high achievers struggle in relationships more than anyone expects? When high achievers struggle in relationships, the pattern is almost always rooted in the same survival skills that made them successful. Here is why high achievers struggle in relationships and what to do about it. The sneaky danger of expectations, and why problem-solving makes
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High achiever relationship sabotage often stems from the very skills that drive professional success: logic, efficiency, and relentless problem-solving. But in a relationship, treating your partner like a “project” to be fixed only deepens the divide. Discover why “arriving” at professional milestones can create an unconscious expectation for relational peace, and how moving toward Empathy³ ($Empathy^3$) can break the cycle of conflict and restore true connection.
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Healing from betrayal isn’t about “moving on”—it’s about addressing a shattered reality. An affair introduces a “Third Party” that triggers a profound trauma response in the nervous system, signaling that you are no longer the priority. To truly recover, couples must stop the “bleeding,” establish safety, and drag the truth into the light to re-establish a shared reality. Discover why forgiveness can’t happen without a foundation of safety and how to move toward a “Proof of Work” that rebuilds trust.
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Figs isn’t a therapist, he is a magician; he is the frigging “Couples Whisperer.” My wife and I were at the verge of separation and already had an appointment with a mediator to sort our complicated life out when, as a “last ditch effort,” I searched for therapists and found Figs here on Yelp and
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It is 11:47 on a Tuesday night. Your partner is asleep beside you, or in the next room, or across the country on a work trip that has started to feel like a rehearsal. You have three tabs open. One is a relationship quiz. One is a Reddit thread you have read before. One is
