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Figs O'Sullivan

Figs O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT #79062) and the founder of Empathi. For 17 years he has helped couples move out of disconnection and back into secure, loving connection, drawing on Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment science. With his wife Teale, he runs a San Francisco couples therapy practice, is a relationship expert to the Stars and Silicon Valley, and built Figlet, an AI relationship coach trained on their clinical work. His approach has guided more than 58,000 relationship assessments.

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Couples Therapy Silicon Valley: Why Tech Couples Need a Different Approach

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You Built a Product That Changed the World. Your Marriage Needs Someone Who Understands That. Silicon Valley is a strange place to be married. You live in one of the most innovative, high-pressure environments on earth. You’re surrounded by people who think in systems, optimize for efficiency, and measure everything. Your partner might be shipping […]

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When the Startup Wins and the Marriage Loses: 5 Essential Couples Therapy Insights for Founders

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You are lying in bed next to the person you married and you have never felt more alone. They are physically there. Their body is in the room. But their eyes are somewhere else, tracking a Slack notification, rehearsing tomorrow’s board conversation, calculating burn rate in the dark. You stopped trying to talk about it

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Can AI Relationship Coaching Actually Work? A Couples Therapist’s Honest Take

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Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. An AI relationship coach is a tool that helps you see the pattern you and your partner keep falling into, and calm your nervous system enough to step out of it, at any hour and without a waitlist. Built on a real clinical protocol, it can map your pursue-withdraw

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Financial Stress and Your Marriage: The Attachment Theory Connection No One Talks About

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Your Bank Account Is Stressing You Out. But It’s Your Marriage That’s Actually Breaking. They came in after a fight about a grocery bill. A grocery bill. She had bought organic produce instead of conventional and he had looked at the receipt and something inside him snapped. “Sixty dollars on strawberries and avocados,” he said

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When One Partner Earns More: Power, Shame, and the Relationship Underneath

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The Paycheck Gap Nobody Wants to Talk About in Their Marriage She made $400,000 a year as a VP of Engineering at a Series C startup. He made $65,000 as a high school teacher. They loved each other deeply. And they were drowning. “I feel like I’m his employee,” she said in our first session.

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Affair Triggers Years Later: 3 Reasons You Keep Having the Same Fight

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Affair triggers years later can feel like a cruel trick. You thought you were past it. You did the work. You had good months. And then something small happens, a song, a restaurant, a notification on a phone, and suddenly you are right back in the worst moment of your life. Affair triggers years later

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Can a Marriage Survive an Affair? 5 Powerful Factors That Decide

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Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Yes, many marriages survive an affair, and some become stronger afterward. Whether a marriage survives has very little to do with the type of affair and almost everything to do with what happens next. The affair has to be completely over, the partner who strayed has to stop running

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12 Signs You’re Experiencing Betrayal Trauma (And Why You’re Not Crazy)

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Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. The most common signs of relationship betrayal are secrecy (a phone that suddenly lives face-down, deleted messages), a story that shifts every time it is retold, defensiveness where curiosity used to be, emotional withdrawal, and being told you are paranoid or crazy when you ask. Betrayal can be sexual,

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