Figs O'Sullivan

Figs O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT #79062) and the founder of Empathi. For 17 years he has helped couples move out of disconnection and back into secure, loving connection, drawing on Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment science. With his wife Teale, he runs a San Francisco couples therapy practice, is a relationship expert to the Stars and Silicon Valley, and built Figlet, an AI relationship coach trained on their clinical work. His approach has guided more than 58,000 relationship assessments.

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Love, Bitcoin, and Why You Won’t Change Until It Hurts Like Hell

I Love Bitcoin: Understanding Its Impact and Why You Won’t Change Until It Hurts Like Hell I still remember walking on Ocean Beach with my mother in San Francisco: I’m 40 years old and I feel I have to tell her, “Look, I cannot make relationships work. I’m sorry, I’m just never going to make […]

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How To Make Love Work – 3 Relationship Pillars

How To Make Love Work: 3 Relationship Pillars Everybody and their granny’s got a secret or three for makin’ love work: communication, boundaries, terms and conditions, eye of newt… These pillars are essential for a good relationship, as they help create a strong, resilient partnership built on trust, respect, and effective communication. But at Empathi,

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How to Fix Resentment In A Relationship, For Good

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. How do you fix resentment in a relationship or marriage? Waiting it out doesn’t work. Time doesn’t heal resentment, it compounds it. Resentment is what I call a signpost emotion. It’s a secondary emotion. If you’re feeling resentment, there’s another feeling much deeper down inside: feeling unconsidered, not prioritized,

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No, Task Management Won’t Fix Your Relationship

Recently, the New York Times posted an article about how “some couples are using professional project-management software to maintain their relationships.” In a way, it makes sense. Many of the couples I work with get into recurring fights around the management of their shared life. One partner feels resentful for feeling like they have to

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