How do I get my partner to couples counseling?
Clients often ask Figs this important question when initially reaching out for relationship help. His advice: “Be persistent, but skillful.”
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What is a Fight?
When I say things like fighting is a good thing or conflict is normal, I mean that if you hurt emotionally when you experience disconnection it means you still love each other. On the other side of conflict is an opportunity to love up those vulnerable parts of each other that surfaced during disconnection.
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5 Things to Look for in a Couples Therapist The majority of us fall into love with nothing more than the instincts of a newborn infant: I need you! Love me this way! And then we pledge to love and honor each other unconditionally until one of us dies. What could possibly go wrong? I
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Ben and Jen in Love
Figs returns with his third installment of the Who Are You in Love Series. This time, he is joined by couple Ben and Jen and their 4 week old baby in arms. Together they vulnerably open up to the deep and important questions about love. Is there a moment that stands out for you when
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Waiting for Ramen
Figs and Teale are 10 days past their due date, anxiously awaiting the home birth of their second child, Kian. Together they share their vulnerabilities and experiences during this time while also waiting for their favorite San Francisco Friday night treat—Ramen! As couples therapists, they recognize that during times of stress or conflict, people in
Figs & Teale Birth Prep Part 2
Today episode highlights the important and final prebirth check in with Figs and his pregnant wife Teale. As a follow up to their first pre-birth episode (released 5/23/2017), the two sit down together one last time to share and understand each other most vulnerable, lovable parts related to this important event. This time, Figs is
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Emotional Bonding Styles
In short, love is an emotional bond. It not optional; it part of our biology, affirms Figs in today episode about Attachment Styles. Have you ever thought about how we are useless when we are born? We can´t do anything for ourselves. Our ability to be emotionally bonded is an essential evolutionary solution to our
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Ben Reebs In Love
In this episode, Ben shares his most vulnerable moments and mistakes in love, from the trail of wreckage behind him, to the beautiful sky that awaits ahead. The conversion runs deep, acknowledging the dark and light of intimacy in all relationships. Portland based naturopathic doctor, Ben Reebs, joins Figs as the second guest in the
Figs & Teale Birth Prep Part 1
Figs sits down with his pregnant wife, Teale (due in 3-5 weeks!) and together they share a special, intimate chat to prepare for the birth of their second child, Kian! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h89AA9evsZc Figs asks Teale three questions. These can be applied to any major relationship debate, thought, fear, or issue: What are your longings fears, thoughts,
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Built For Love
Today, Figs goes back to the basics and answers the question what is love? Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (a clinical approach founded by Dr. Sue Johnson), Figs shares the Attachment Theory perspective on this big question. Love is an emotional bond that we all need. Simply put, we are biologically wired for connection.