Relationship Tip #8 I promised you 10 truths and we’re down to the final three… Relationship Tip #8: Your need for love is not a weakness. The need to be bonded with others is woven into the fabric of your being. It’s a feature, not a bug. Think about it. Millions of years of evolution […]
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Relationship Tip #7 Ready for another relationship truth you need to learn? Relationship Tip #7. It doesn’t matter who started it! There are no winners once the “You Started It!” battle begins. As a matter of fact, the tattered remnants of all the couples who do not succeed can be found on the battlefield of “You Started
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Relationship Tip #6 It’s time for some brutal truth telling! Relationship Tip #6: Your longing for perfection is the enemy of your good-enough relationship. You ready to be honest with yourself? Do you ever doubt that your partner is the right one for you? We’ll keep this just between you and me. ???? Are they really hot enough,
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Relationship Tip #5 Here’s another relationship truth for you. This one’s a doozy. Relationship Tip #5: Stop avoiding conflict! You’re not doing your relationship any favors by avoiding conflict. The parts of you both that need love the most can use a dose of magic. And the magic happens after conflict in the repair. Conflict is
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Relationship Tip #4 Do you ever get your feelings hurt and then frantically try to blame someone or something for your pain? It’d be a miracle if you didn’t … because WE ALL DO IT! Relationship Tip #4: Stop blaming your partner for all of your flippin’ pain. Here’s the thing. Your thoughts, feelings, and
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Relationship Tip #3 Sometimes your partner can be a real jerk, but here’s another relationship truth for ya. You’re not wrong. I believe you. They CAN be a jerk. But guess what, so can you. And if you’re reading this thinking, “No way, I’m the good one and they’re the bad one and here’s why…” I refer
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Relationship Tip #2 Relationship Tip #2: The way you talk about the problem is the problem. You wanna improve your relationship today? Stop asking your partner to change. What????? Have I lost my flippin’ Couples Therapist mind?I don’t know, you tell me…How well does it work when they tell YOU to be different — especially in the
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When I first started out as a therapist, I had a pretty staunch resistance to working with couples. In my view at the time, couples therapists were the ultra enlightened ones because who else would be so insane as to willingly march into the tense storm of a couple at the height of their dysfunction?!
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Relationship Tip #1 Here’s the first of my 10 relationship truths to help you love better. Relationship Tip #1: Stop trying to shake off your uncomfortable feelings. When you’re feeling sad … or lonely … or rejected … or powerless, stop employing whatever your strategy has always been to squash it and instead give some attention to the feeling
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Clients often ask Figs this important question when initially reaching out for relationship help. His advice: “Be persistent, but skillful.”
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