Introduction to Conflict Resolution Let’s be real: if you’re in a relationship, conflict is going to happen. Even the happiest couples fight, sometimes about the most unimportant things, like who left the lights on or why the dishwasher is loaded “wrong.” But here’s the truth: it’s not the argument itself that matters, it’s how you […]
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Relationship Tip #6 It’s time for some brutal truth telling! Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when you are You keep measuring what they lack, wondering if you settled. Do you know you can get personalized answers to all your questions from the same wisdom that wrote this article, right now? Ask anything
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Relationship Tip #5 Here’s another relationship truth for you. This one’s a doozy. Relationship Tip #5: Stop avoiding conflict! You’re not doing your relationship any favors by avoiding conflict. The parts of you both that need love the most can use a dose of magic. And the magic happens after conflict in the repair. Conflict is
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Relationship Tip #4 Do you ever get your feelings hurt and then, before you even realize it, frantically try to blame someone or something for your pain? It’d be a miracle if you didn’t … because WE ALL DO IT! Relationship Tip #4: Stop blaming your partner for all of your flippin’ pain. Here’s the
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Relationship Tip #3 Sometimes your partner can be a real jerk, but here’s another relationship truth for ya. You’re not wrong. I believe you. They CAN be a jerk. But guess what, so can you. And if you’re reading this thinking, “No way, I’m the good one and they’re the bad one and here’s why…” I refer
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Relationship Tip #2 Relationship Tip #2: The way you talk about the problem is the problem. You wanna improve your relationship today? Stop asking your partner to change. What????? Have I lost my flippin’ Couples Therapist mind?I don’t know, you tell me…How well does it work when they tell YOU to be different, especially in the middle
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This interview originally appeared in GGMG Magazine, the magazine of the Golden Gate Mothers Group. Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when you are You get so scared during fights that you act like enemies. Do you know you can get personalized answers to all your questions from the same wisdom that wrote
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When I first started out as a therapist, at the very beginning of my journey, I had a pretty staunch resistance to working with couples. In my view at the time, couples therapists were the ultra enlightened ones because who else would be so insane as to willingly march into the tense storm of a
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Relationship Tip #1 for Better Mental Health Here’s the first of my 10 relationship truths to help you love better. Relationship Tip #1: Stop trying to shake off your negative feelings. When you’re feeling sad … or lonely … or rejected … or powerless, or angry, anxious, frustrated, irritable, upset, or in a dark mood, stop employing whatever
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Clients often ask Figs this important question when initially reaching out for relationship help. His advice: “Be persistent, but skillful.” Explore More Topics Talk to FigletFigs’ AI relationship coachHere now, ready when you are You keep asking for counseling, but they treat it like a trial. Do you know you can get personalized answers to
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