Insecure Attachment: What It Actually Is, How It Shows Up, and What to Do About It
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Most people hear the phrase “insecure attachment” and immediately think something is wrong with them.
Anxious Attachment Style: The Biology, the Pattern, and the Path to Healing
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Your anxious attachment style is not a character flaw. It is a biological survival program. After 16 years of working with couples, here is what I know about the pursuer pattern, the biology of anxious seeking, and what real healing looks like.
Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship: The Real Work Nobody Talks About
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Trust is not a decision. It is a felt sense of safety in your nervous system. After 16 years of working with couples, here is what the real process of rebuilding trust looks like, how long it takes, and what most people get wrong.
Vulnerability in Relationships: Why It Terrifies You and Why Your Relationship Cannot Survive Without It
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
I have been sitting across from couples for over sixteen years. And if I had
Codependency in Relationships: What It Really Is, Where It Comes From, and How to Heal
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Codependency in relationships is not a character flaw. It is a survival strategy that made perfect sense in the environment where it was born. Here is what it actually looks like, why the standard advice makes it worse, and what real healing requires.
7 Ways Emotional Intelligence in Relationships Actually Works (That Nobody Talks About)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Most relationship advice treats emotional intelligence as a communication skill. After 16 years as a couples therapist, Figs O Sullivan explains why real EQ lives in your nervous system, not your vocabulary, and introduces the three levels of empathy that actually repair relationships.
7 Signs You Are Growing Apart in Your Relationship (and What to Do Before It Is Too Late)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Growing apart is not a diagnosis. It is a symptom. After 16 years of couples therapy, here is what is actually happening when you feel disconnected from your partner, and the path back to real connection.
9 Signs of a Healthy Relationship (That Nobody Talks About)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
After 16 years of working with couples, here are the 9 signs of a healthy relationship that most articles miss. It is not about never fighting. It is about how you come back.
Couples Therapy: What Actually Happens in the Room (From a Therapist With 16 Years of Experience)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
What really happens in couples therapy? A licensed therapist with 16+ years of experience shares what to expect, how to find the right therapist, and why most advice about couples therapy is wrong.
7 Things a Controlling Partner Is Actually Telling You (That Most Therapists Miss)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
After 16 years as an LMFT, I have come to see controlling behavior in relationships through a very different lens. Most controlling behavior is not about power. It is about terror. Here is what your partner is actually trying to tell you.
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