How to Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
You Weren’t Born Comparing Your Relationship. You Were Trained To. There’s a moment that happens
How to Express Your Feelings: A Therapist’s Guide to Real Emotional Expression
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Most people know what they feel but struggle to express it. Learn why standard ‘I feel’ statements fail, how the Flashlight technique and Experience of Self language create real connection, and a graduated 5-level approach for people who have never learned to name and share emotions.
How to Trust Your Partner: A Therapist’s Guide to the Daily Practice of Choosing Vulnerability
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Your partner hasn’t done anything wrong. So why can’t you relax? A couples therapist explains the biology of trust, why your nervous system makes trust feel dangerous, and practical daily steps to increase your capacity for vulnerability.
What Is a Toxic Person? A Therapist Challenges the Label
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
There is no diagnosis called ‘toxic.’ As a couples therapist, I explain what people actually mean when they use the word, the attachment science behind relationship damage, and why the label might be more complicated than you think.
What Is Verbal Abuse? The Invisible Scars That Change Your Brain
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Verbal abuse leaves invisible scars that are just as damaging as physical ones. Learn the seven forms of verbal abuse, what it does to your brain and nervous system, and why victims minimize it.
How to Stop Being Emotionally Unavailable: A Guide for the Person Who Wants to Change
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Written for the person who IS emotionally unavailable and wants to change. Learn why your nervous system shuts down, the specific behaviors to change, and a graduated approach to becoming more emotionally available.
How to Build Self-Esteem in a Relationship: The Attachment Science of Self-Worth
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Your self-esteem was built in relationship, and it will be rebuilt in relationship. Learn the attachment science of self-worth, six practices for building esteem while partnered, and the sovereignty principle that changes everything.
How to Cope with a Breakup: A Therapist’s Emergency Guide for the Acute Phase
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
A therapist’s emergency guide for coping with a breakup: what’s happening in your nervous system, how to survive the first 48 hours, and when coping becomes avoidance.
How to Deal with a Lying Partner: The Attachment Science of Why Lies Destroy Bonds (and What to Do About It)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Start free with Figlet. I had a couple in
What Is the Gottman Method? The Research, the Tools, and What Your Therapist Won’t Tell You
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
A comprehensive, clinician-honest guide to the Gottman Method. Covers the Sound Relationship House, Four Horsemen, bids for connection, the 5:1 ratio, and how Gottman compares to EFT and psychodynamic approaches.
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