How to Deal with a Jealous Partner: What Attachment Science Actually Says
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. To deal with a jealous partner, stop arguing the
How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Partner (Without Losing Yourself)
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Passive aggression is one of the most disorienting patterns in a relationship. A couples therapist with 16+ years of experience explains the attachment science underneath the sarcasm, silent treatment, and procrastination, and what actually works to change the pattern.
How to Deal with a Partner Who Overreacts
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You deal with a partner who overreacts by responding
What Is the Triangle of Conflict? How Hidden Feelings, Anxiety, and Defense Shape Your Relationship
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The triangle of conflict, developed by David Malan, reveals how hidden feelings, anxiety, and defense mechanisms create the destructive cycles that keep couples stuck. Learn how to identify your pattern and break free.
What Is the Cycle of Disconnection and Repair?
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The cycle of disconnection and repair is the natural rhythm of every intimate relationship. Understanding why disconnection is inevitable and how repair strengthens the bond is the most important thing couples can learn.
What Is Neuroplasticity in Relationships? The Neuroscience of How Love Rewires the Brain
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Neuroplasticity is the reason couples therapy works, people heal from relational trauma, and the phrase ‘people don’t change’ is wrong. Here is the neuroscience of how your relationship literally rewires your brain.
How to Support a Partner Through Grief: An Attachment-Based Guide
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Supporting a partner through grief is not about taking
How to Deal With a Partner Who Minimizes Your Feelings
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
When your partner says ‘it’s not that big of a deal,’ something inside you gets smaller. Minimizing is not just dismissiveness. It is a nervous system survival strategy rooted in shame. Here is what attachment science says about why it happens and what you can actually do about it.
What Is the Protest Polka? Sue Johnson’s Demon Dialogue That Keeps Couples Stuck
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The Protest Polka is Sue Johnson’s name for the pursue-withdraw cycle in Emotionally Focused Therapy. One partner reaches for connection, the other pulls away, and both end up alone. Here is how it works, why it is so hard to break, and what you can do about it.
What Is Betrayal Trauma? The Neurobiology of Partner Betrayal and the Path to Recovery
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Betrayal trauma is the injury that happens when someone
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