The internet has turned ‘narcissist’ into a catch-all for any painful relationship. As an LMFT with 16+ years of experience, I break down what NPD actually is clinically, why armchair diagnosis is dangerous, and what to actually do if your relationship is struggling.
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. An avoidant person in a relationship is someone whose
Your relationship expectations aren’t the problem. Unexamined, uncommunicated, and misaligned expectations are. A therapist with 16+ years of experience breaks down what’s healthy to expect, what’s unrealistic, and how to have the conversation most couples avoid.
The concept of love languages was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman in his 1992 book
Most people know what they need from their partner. The problem is that every time they try to say it, it comes out as criticism. Learn how to communicate your needs in a way your partner can actually hear, from a therapist with 16+ years of experience.
Emotional intimacy is not a mood or an activity. It is a physiological state two people co-create when they are willing to be genuinely seen. Here is what it actually takes to build it.
Coercive control isn’t a single incident. It’s a sustained pattern of domination that strips away your freedom, your identity, and your sense of reality. Here’s how to recognize it, why couples therapy can make it worse, and what to do if you’re living in it.
The fight isn’t the problem. The failure to repair is. Learn the step-by-step process for how to reconnect after a fight, from a therapist with 16+ years of experience working with couples.
Anxious attachment in dating isn’t a character flaw. It’s your nervous system mistaking ambiguity for abandonment. Learn why dating is uniquely triggering for anxious attachment, how protest behaviors push away the connection you want, and what to do instead.
Learning how to break up with someone you love is one of the hardest things a person can do. A therapist with 16+ years of experience explains why love alone isn’t enough, how to have the conversation with compassion, and what to expect from the grief that follows.
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