Differentiation is your ability to hold onto yourself while staying emotionally connected to the person you love. Therapist Figs O’Sullivan explains Bowen’s concept and how it transforms relationships.
Your Partner’s Jealousy Isn’t About Trust. It’s About Survival. Let me be direct with you.
Passive aggression is one of the most disorienting patterns in a relationship. A couples therapist with 16+ years of experience explains the attachment science underneath the sarcasm, silent treatment, and procrastination, and what actually works to change the pattern.
Your Partner Isn’t “Overreacting.” Their Nervous System Is in Survival Mode. Let me start with
The triangle of conflict, developed by David Malan, reveals how hidden feelings, anxiety, and defense mechanisms create the destructive cycles that keep couples stuck. Learn how to identify your pattern and break free.
The cycle of disconnection and repair is the natural rhythm of every intimate relationship. Understanding why disconnection is inevitable and how repair strengthens the bond is the most important thing couples can learn.
Neuroplasticity is the reason couples therapy works, people heal from relational trauma, and the phrase ‘people don’t change’ is wrong. Here is the neuroscience of how your relationship literally rewires your brain.
Your Partner Is Grieving. Now What? Photo by Vitaly Gariev on Unsplash There is a
When your partner says ‘it’s not that big of a deal,’ something inside you gets smaller. Minimizing is not just dismissiveness. It is a nervous system survival strategy rooted in shame. Here is what attachment science says about why it happens and what you can actually do about it.
The Protest Polka is Sue Johnson’s name for the pursue-withdraw cycle in Emotionally Focused Therapy. One partner reaches for connection, the other pulls away, and both end up alone. Here is how it works, why it is so hard to break, and what you can do about it.
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