Self-actualization isn’t a summit you reach and stay on; it’s a way of being you return to, moment by moment, once there’s enough ground under you.
When your boyfriend says you are too sensitive, sometimes an old wound is firing, and sometimes it is a way to end the conversation. I explain how to tell the difference and what to say.
He is away, his texts are short, and he never says he misses you first. A couples therapist on why some men turn longing off to cope with distance, how to tell that from a man who has checked out, and the one line to send tonight.
The mother wound is the gap between the mother you needed and the mother you had, and it heals by completing what was missed in the present.
A highly sensitive person takes in more and feels it more deeply, and the trait gets easier to live with once your body has somewhere steady to land.
Your boyfriend almost certainly does not hate you. What feels like hate is usually contempt, and contempt is pain that has gone hard, or occasionally a man who has checked out.
An identity crisis happens when the role you built yourself around changes or falls away, and it eases when you get curious about who is underneath that role.
Limiting beliefs are survival rules you learned as a child that still decide what you let yourself try, and they loosen when you notice them firing and choose anyway.
The clearest sign he will never change is not what he promises but what he does when change gets uncomfortable. People change when the pain is theirs, not yours.
The best online therapy for anxiety is a licensed therapist using CBT or exposure who tracks your progress. A couples therapist matches Brightside, Talkiatry, Rula, Grow, NOCD and Open Path to your kind of anxiety.
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