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A man sits next to a bed with a bottle in his hand, looking unhappy. His partner, a woman, rests her hand on his shoulder, indicating a relationship with addiction or alcohol and enabling.

A man sits next to a bed with a bottle in his hand, looking unhappy. His partner, a woman, rests her hand on his shoulder, indicating a relationship with addiction or alcohol and enabling.

Anxious Attachment and Codependency

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Look, I’m going to stop you right there before we even get into this. I

Two people with bowed heads flanking a broken red heart shape on blue background, text reads Safe With You, CHTM Episode 8

Two people with bowed heads flanking a broken red heart shape on blue background, text reads Safe With You, CHTM Episode 8

Why Do I Need Constant Reassurance?

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You need constant reassurance in a relationship because your

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Attachment Styles in Toxic Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You love this person. You also cannot keep doing

Two women in indoor space with potted plant, both with hands to their heads, appearing distressed or troubled.

Two women in indoor space with potted plant, both with hands to their heads, appearing distressed or troubled.

How Childhood Affects Adult Love

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You are lying next to someone who loves you

Two members of a couple are smiling at each other, holding each other's faces from underneath a blanket. It's playful, as if they're telling their own story like they would when they were kids.

Two members of a couple are smiling at each other, holding each other's faces from underneath a blanket. It's playful, as if they're telling their own story like they would when they were kids.

Attachment Theory and Bowlby’s Impact on Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know, I love this question because attachment theory is, for me, the whole ballgame.

Two silhouetted people on bicycles holding hands against a dramatic sunset sky with clouds.

Two silhouetted people on bicycles holding hands against a dramatic sunset sky with clouds.

Secure Base in Adult Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know what I love about this question? It’s deceptively simple. “Secure base.” Two words.

A couple holding each other in bed—they aren't codependent, they just love each other.

A couple holding each other in bed—they aren't codependent, they just love each other.

Attachment Wounds Healing in Couples

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

It is past midnight. You are on the floor of your living room, back against

Limerence - couple caught in obsessive infatuation vs secure attachment

Limerence - couple caught in obsessive infatuation vs secure attachment

Anxious Attachment and Overthinking in Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. It’s 11:47 p.m. You’ve re-read the last three messages

Limerence - couple caught in obsessive infatuation vs secure attachment

Limerence - couple caught in obsessive infatuation vs secure attachment

Avoidant Attachment and Fear of Engulfment

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know what’s interesting about the fear of engulfment? It gets misread constantly, even by

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Disorganized Attachment and Chaotic Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You are reading this at midnight because you feel

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