How to Maintain Your Identity in a Relationship
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. The Paradox Nobody Warns You About You fell in
How to Deal with a Partner Who Lacks Empathy
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Your partner probably does not lack empathy. They lack the felt safety required to access it. Here is the clinical protocol for restoring empathy in your relationship, from a couples therapist with 16+ years of experience.
What Is the Vulnerability Cycle? How Dropping Your Armor Creates Real Connection
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The vulnerability cycle is the moment both partners drop their defenses, access their deeper emotions, and create a new experience of connection. Learn how EFT helps couples move from their reactive loop into genuine bonding.
What Is Relational Repair? The Clinical Science of Healing After Rupture
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Relational repair is not an apology. It is a biological process of restoring safety to a threatened nervous system. Learn what attachment science and EFT reveal about the rupture-repair cycle, why surface apologies fail, and how deep repair actually strengthens your bond.
What Is Emotional Permanence? Why You Can’t Feel Loved When Your Partner Isn’t There
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Emotional permanence is the ability to hold onto the felt sense of being loved when your partner is not actively showing it. Here is why some people lose that feeling instantly, and what couples can do about it.
How to Stop Repeating Relationship Patterns
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Why do you keep ending up in the same relationship dynamic with different partners? Attachment science explains how internal working models and your nervous system recreate familiar patterns, and how to finally break the cycle.
What Is the Attachment Cycle? How Protest, Despair, and Detachment Shape Every Relationship
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The attachment cycle is a biologically driven sequence of protest, despair, and detachment that plays out when couples feel disconnected. Learn how EFT explains the negative interaction cycle and what you can do to break it.
How to Deal with a Partner Who Invalidates Your Feelings
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Emotional invalidation is one of the most corrosive forces in a relationship. Here is what attachment science says about why your partner dismisses your feelings, and what you can actually do about it.
How to Talk About Money in a Relationship
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
The Fight About Money Is Never About Money I have been working with couples for
How to Navigate Cultural Differences in a Relationship
Figs O'Sullivan
April 16, 2026
Most advice about cultural differences in relationships is dangerously shallow. Here is what attachment science actually says about intercultural couples, and what the ones who make it are doing differently.
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