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Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

Man with hand on head at microphone, text reads STOP DOING THIS

How to Love Someone with Avoidant Attachment

Figs O'Sullivan April 11, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. To love someone with avoidant attachment, make closeness feel

Word ATTACHMENT with period, three people against purple gradient background

Word ATTACHMENT with period, three people against purple gradient background

Anxious Attachment and Jealousy Problems

Figs O'Sullivan April 11, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. You are sitting on the kitchen floor at midnight,

Man in blue shirt gesturing while speaking. Text reads: We're Attached From The Cradle To The Grave. Icons show cradle and gravestone. Episode 15 Couples Therapy Works.

Man in blue shirt gesturing while speaking. Text reads: We're Attached From The Cradle To The Grave. Icons show cradle and gravestone. Episode 15 Couples Therapy Works.

Protest Behaviors in Anxious Attachment

Figs O'Sullivan April 11, 2026

Protest behaviors in anxious attachment are the things an anxious nervous system does when the

Two people with bowed heads flanking a broken red heart shape on blue background, text reads Safe With You, CHTM Episode 8

Two people with bowed heads flanking a broken red heart shape on blue background, text reads Safe With You, CHTM Episode 8

My Partner Has Trust Issues from Childhood

Figs O'Sullivan April 11, 2026

Look, I want to say something important right off the top here, because I think

Two members of a couple are smiling at each other, holding each other's faces from underneath a blanket. It's playful, as if they're telling their own story like they would when they were kids.

Two members of a couple are smiling at each other, holding each other's faces from underneath a blanket. It's playful, as if they're telling their own story like they would when they were kids.

Avoidant Attachment Deactivating Strategies

Figs O'Sullivan April 11, 2026

Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. An avoidant deactivating strategy is not coldness or indifference,

A woman lays on her back, smiling up at a man over her, who is smiling back. They're looking into each other's eyes—their relationship makes sense.

A woman lays on her back, smiling up at a man over her, who is smiling back. They're looking into each other's eyes—their relationship makes sense.

Why Do I Push People Away When They Get Close?

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

Oh, I love this question. I really do. Because the fact that you’re even asking

A couple, a man and a woman, is lying in bed happily. The man is smiling as the woman holds him from behind (he's the little spoon).

A couple, a man and a woman, is lying in bed happily. The man is smiling as the woman holds him from behind (he's the little spoon).

Anxious Attachment and Fear of Abandonment

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

That fear of abandonment, that raw, chest-tightening terror that the person you love is going

A couple's hands pressed together, demonstrating a secure attachment to each other, as gained through the 4th relationship quiz on this list.

A couple's hands pressed together, demonstrating a secure attachment to each other, as gained through the 4th relationship quiz on this list.

Secure Attachment Relationship Goals

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know what I love about that question? It’s not “how do I stop fighting”

A couple, two women, rest their heads together, looking at the camera. One girl is smiling, the other is serious, as if she's going along with the relationship without meeting her needs.

A couple, two women, rest their heads together, looking at the camera. One girl is smiling, the other is serious, as if she's going along with the relationship without meeting her needs.

How Childhood Neglect Affects Adult Relationships

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You’re touching on something I see every single day in my office. The kid who

A man and woman are sitting in a restaurant, her hand and head resting on his shoulder. Codependent, overly attached, or human?

A man and woman are sitting in a restaurant, her hand and head resting on his shoulder. Codependent, overly attached, or human?

Attachment Styles and Communication Patterns

Figs O'Sullivan April 10, 2026

You know, I want to be honest with you about something right from the start.

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