The reason you can’t get over someone isn’t weakness. It’s biology. A therapist with 16 years of experience explains the neuroscience of attachment, why your body holds on after a breakup, and the somatic process of actually letting go.
Attachment theory is not a quiz or a label. It is a biological map of human survival that explains why you pursue, withdraw, or shut down in your closest relationships. A clinician’s guide to the sixty-year science of bonding.
Emotional validation is the most underdeveloped skill in modern relationships. After 16 years of couples therapy, here is why it works, why most people get it wrong, and what to do instead.
Most people know their attachment style. But few understand what secure attachment actually looks like in practice. After 16 years of clinical work, here’s what earned security really means, and why it doesn’t feel like limerence.
Quick answer: Defensiveness is not stubbornness or ego. It is a biological survival response. When
If you’re living with an emotionally unavailable partner, the label itself may be keeping you stuck. After 16 years of couples therapy, here’s what’s actually happening inside the partner who shuts down, and what you can do about it.
Most of what you’ll find online about marriage counseling is sanitized and misleading. After 16+ years as a couples therapist, here’s what actually moves the needle, what to expect in the room, and how to find a therapist who can help.
The cultural narrative about avoidant partners is wrong. Withdrawal is not indifference. It is a nervous system screaming for safety. Here is what the avoidant attachment style actually looks like from inside, and what real healing requires.
Unrequited love is not a romance problem. It is a nervous system problem. After 16 years of clinical work, here is what is actually happening inside your body when you love someone who does not love you back.
Watch: Figs O’Sullivan, LMFT explains this. Insecure attachment is the umbrella term for the survival
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